Money or Love? You can't have both

well chasing either is the problem..
but without money it really limits your prospects for quality lovers

as a guy anyway.. and most divorces happen because of money issues .

on some subjects ..it's best not to listen to the wise hermit man on the top of the mountain ..and even wise men are wrong often enough

I am strongly against such self-limiting beliefs. Who said you can't have both? Many people are financially successful and have wonderful relationships, too.

Actually if you observe closely wealthy people are usually not very happy.. Now this doesn't mean all wealthy people aren't happy, I'm talking in general.

I don't think this statement that you can't have both is true.

Internet Marketing, however, is a stressful and nerve-wracking business to be in that does not play well with relationships.

You will note many of the successful marketers figured out the business end of things BEFORE going after the romantic pursuits.

Having your own business is an incredibly time- and energy-consuming thing. Relationships are also time- and energy-consuming. Since most people aren't good at budgeting or managing, it's no surprise we have trouble simultaneously running both.

Now how about having a partner who's supportive, has the same approach to risk as you do, and you have good communication with? I believe this will go a long way towards success in both areas.

Limiting belief

First you chase love, and then you chase money.

That way you can have both.

You can't chase money first because that chase goes on forever.

When you lose love, you can chase it again, then get back to money.

Money doesn't bring me happiness, just comfort.

One may not get both. Love and Money. But both are necessary. Can't deposit love in a bank or buy groceries with love.

Also many think money buys love. But it is not so. Money certainly help sustain relationship but it does not buy love.

A W Benjamin

We actually spend money for love..

I would say that is true as well. People who have large amounts of money usually accumulate it with a price. The price is usually a lack of quality time in which to form meaningful relationships.

This is why many wealthy people are typically depressed and left unfilled. Many buy many "toys" such as exotic cars, mansions, vacation homes, etc, etc, because they feel that these things bring happiness. When the novelty of "having things" wears off, such people spiral down into feelings of emptiness, as if something is still missing.

Or those in relationships may have serious problems WITHIN the relationship, although the picture painted to the outside world may represent the exact opposite. So the guys you see with "mad cash" and trophy wives on their shoulder are often unhappy behind closed doors, and the partner is often unhappy too, just keeping the "image" going to those looking in from the outside.

On the other hand, the guy without much money will often have lasting relationships with meaningful value. This person spends time working to make a living; not to necessarily "get rich." He also has time on his hand to get out into the world, learn who he is and what he REALLY wants out of life.

And he doesn't even look to hard to find a partner; he just goes with the flow. Since he isn't looking, a partner comes when he least expects it, and they usually "hit it off." At the same time, since he isn't "looking," he doesn't really care if no one comes along. He's happy regardless (all other things being considered).

Just my $.02 rant.

Jarvis ,

I don't disagree with you .. but there is a difference when it come to flashy high income earners ..and those who build life long wealth.

and you will find just as many people ..in percentage wise in the group of depressed or misserable people..at any income llevel

the key here is that it is faulse and falty logic to belief that because there are so many have ..who deal with depression and othe mental problems ..

by pointing that out it seem to give the message do not bother trying to have or be rich .. when a casual look at the news or what many low income persons in the us or lower middle class deal with on a regular basis ..

high income people burried in debt who are just making enough money to pay their bills..or yes the high income person with the souse with expensive tastes ..will have both depression issues..that they have plenty of money and insuranse to see a good shrink ..and get the best medications ..

while lower income peopl with not so good insurance ..self medicat with ilegal drugs and end up with felony convictions .

anyway..the middle class is fading away ..there will only be rich or wealthy..then poor people ..

the middle class lifestyle in most of the developing world..would be poor in the Usa ..and if you depend on a job for income ..what you make will eventually have to be competitive with what middle class wage earners in the rest of the world earn ..

what i made 20 years ago when i started working is what i would get today with most jobs i can get ..but most things that you need every day ..cost 2 to 4 times as much ..

and most thing i have specialized in ..did not caryy outside the company i worked for..or where replaced by tech..

so i can either keep up the find a job do ok or hang on for three years thn have the job go away..and lose everything by the time i find a new job ..

or build a business and make money to build long term wealth ....

there is no virtue to being poor ..and just because someone is rich does not make them virtuous ..

When poverty comes in at doors, love leaps out at windows?

You can have love without having money. But you can't have love just because you have money.
So you can have love & money if love came first.

Great point @topsocialmarketing

love and money do not have to be connected or on the either or list..

the critical factors in making love last really have to do with both parties having similar life path or life paths that interweave ..

you can be very different..but if those differences compliment each other..a relationship can last ..

my parent fought every day they where together for 43 years .. and where only apart 4 months between when they passed on last year .. and they where never rich and made more mnoney after they retired than when they worked ,, but my parents where alike enough..even if they drove the rest of us crazy ..

you can find love at any income level..but you really have to have a long term direction..if you do not have a life direction ..or fall in love with those who are going or will go in different directions ..

also our concept of love and marriage..is rooted in times when people got married young had as many children as possible before they died at the then old age of 45 ..after breaking their asses every day earning about 3 dollars a day ..this was the standard condition of humanit ..prior to the mid 1800s..and still where about 3 billion people are ..income wise .

So much of the anti money anti rich ..propaganda ..was fed into the minds of poor people by rich people so the rich people would have plenty of servents or workers ..and soldiers ..

look at the biggest touters of anti rich bullcrap today..most of the are very rich people flying around in private jets .. while dreaming of the lesser fortunate people.. giving up their cars and moving around in high speed trains .

be weary of these common but dangerous beliefs ..that are there to keep you in your station ..

the problem is that almost everyone think that money doesn't give u happiness, it's actually a big bullshit as through money u can have the freedom u want and spend time with people u love. remember people: Money only reveal what you really are! they may not give u happiness but they too important nowadays

Don't believe that

As an independent female I pride myself on being financially stable on my own. I believe that money comes or it doesn't. Put the work in and it will- but being rich shouldn't be the ultimate goal. At the end of the day I'd always rather choose love than money. But as a few others mentioned, I think financial stability can improve your love life.

I don't agree... I have money and I'm in love :-)

Agreed with @Leilapearse....
It depends on the person....either he/she give importance ....for the love or for the money....

Life is what you make it buddy and love is love.... Being that we are Internet Marketers its our job to come up with solutions,so figure it out!!!!!!!!!!! lol

Another thing to consider is perhaps taking a cyclical approach to your relationships and business. I've personally found that relationships refresh you and prevent burnout from work. One month you work long hours and spend just enough time with your partner to maintain the relationship, and the next month you put your business into maintenance mode and work to dive deeper and establish a stronger connection with your significant other. The two can be complimentary.

Well I think this depends on the people involved. A good economic situation improves and helps the love life, (Economic know the couple often away), as well as a stable history where there is love and understanding and a good shoulder, is always helpful in achieving success. Basically I believe that love and money are not mutually exclusive but I believe they are one of the other help, as long as you find the right balance.

Yes I can, and I will!!!

Money without love = Insanity
Love without money = Misery
Money with love = Happiness

I choose happiness, and will continue to strive for both.

I don't think you should be chasing either one - you need to attract them both, along with health. Once you have all three, you are wealthy. And yes, you can have all three.

I Have To Disagree, You Just Have To Manage Your Time Better
If You Have A Real Woman.....Then She'll Understand What Needs To Be Done

Like Scottie Scott Said
Realistically You Should Be Attracting Them To You, Not Chasing 'Em

I have reaped both using nothing more than hypnosis. You just need to steer the subconscious to the right direction and then bam, manifestation occurs on auto pilot. To continue to party, you need the highly celebrated tools connoisseurs put into use to attract manifold miracles in their own life, and I can't see why can't you too.

Just ditch the scarcity mindset and off you go.

This is absolutely true. You cannot have money and love.

Real money, that is.

We're talking billions upon billions of dollars here. The skill sets are completely polarizing to each other. Just head out and look for the problems that billionaires have. I have heard that only about 200,000 people have a net worth over $25 million. Their main concern? Being able to tell who truly cares about them. They are surrounded everywhere they go with pretenders, sharks, and sycophants.

It truly is a problem that the rest of us laugh at.

How can they actually not know who truly cares about them? It seems absurd. The answer is that producing results to gain money is a very different skill set than enjoying the present moment to feel someone loving you. Making money is a withdrawal, loving is a sharing.

The honest truth?

Those who have money and love do not have millions of dollars. Yes, you can make a good living ($75k to around $2m or $3m a year) before this problem starts to seriously make an impact. After that the deception starts to take on a life of its own. We give up riches beyond this in order to have money and love in our lives today.

Proof?

Children. They take a lot of money and time out of our careers to have a healthy, vibrant family. And we don't care. Because the fulfillment and reward we get far surpasses extreme wealth that often just feeds the ego anyway.

What most people are after is a lot of love with a decent amount of money to enhance and enjoy that love. That is the healthy, vibrant, sustainable way of living life. That is what everyone is saying when they say, "Of course you can have money and love. Don't be stupid."

I got both buddy.

Think abundance!

I ll be very cynic: MONEY

This is a very important element to make proud of me my parents and all people belive in me.

The two are not related. You can have one, both or neither. Love and Money both take the right type of effort put in to get the results you want.