Dealing With Haters

Haters are generally miserable in their own life and would like for you to join them in their misery. Sometimes people hate because they were never shown how to behave properly.
"A soft answer turneth away wrath" is the best approach I've found to shut down someone determined to cover you with their hate.

Honestly haters don't even register on my radar, I do not care for them, who they are or what they stand for. When a hater says "you suck at life" or "that **** will not work" I just say whatever. When someone says negative things to me, its like when a hobo says "you stink man", I just laugh and say whatever.

This is really a very strange phenomenon - if you achieve any success in life, some people automatically start hating you! They behave as if you've taken away something they had a right to. I think the best thing is to distance yourself completely from them.

Haters can be a great motivator if directed in the right way.

The objective of a hater can only be successful if it affects you in a way that reduces your effectiveness.

By directing the hate in a way that the more they hate the more it is a reminder to you that you are being effective, it can only be a good thing.

Hate is only a problem if you internalise it and see it as a reason to feel bad.

Aaron Morton

Haters are also a reminder of what you do not want to be, use them as living proof that Law Of Attraction will help you not be like them.

You won't be able to convert all haters in believers or in customers or in business partners, most are not ready; some are ready or just need a little help and these are those you could invest time in to share your understanding of things and successful mindset

I think Frank Sinatra said it best "The best revenge is massive success" and I totally agree...just keep pressing on. And do it with a smile too, that seems to really piss ppl off cuz they cldn't steal your joy lol

i agree with Chloe Emerson...nice thought

I deal with my haters by not giving time to them. I just let them do what they want to say what they want to do.. I won't let them pull me down..

You know the minute you become successful, you tend to find out who your real friends are. It applies to business as well. Successful colleagues are genuinely happy for you. Miserable people hate you because they hate themselves for how their life has turned out. I have had my fair share of people who hate. Do not let their bitterness make you bitter. If they are jealous of you, then you are probably doing something right.

Haters come in many varieties - some of them are more subtle and resort to sarcasm and "witty" remarks. And others are downright aggressive and negative.

Since they cannot build, they try to deconstruct and demolish. Either your reputation, or at least some of your self confidence.

I usually avoid them and/or ignore them. But when I have no other choice, I will *try* to treat them with kindness. (I'm not always successful at this)

The idea is not to let yourself be affected - i.e. not to be "reactive". Because that's what they're preying upon.

Kat Williams (a comedian) once said "If there is no one hating on you, that means that you aren't doing what you need to be doing"
I really use that as my moto when there are people hating on me. That simply means that they are jealous and you make them feel uncomfortable. It never fails that when I have a success there are a line of people waiting to cut me down.

To deal with haters, I simply say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and I leave it at that.
Frith,
Kayla

For a long time, I was part of that misery crew. I despised so many people that were doing better than me.

But when I started learning how to work for my own success, I became far more appreciative of people who were more successful and even started looking up to them as role models. Now, I'm kind of a role model myself to some of my friends and family.

Haters are the people who simply don't do anything to improve their situation and whine about it. The only thing they need to do is take action and their lives would improve ten-fold.

Oh boy have I had a few haters in my life! A lot of that hate came from so called "friends".I use to always put a positive spin on things by thinking that instead of the friends trying to be mean they were actually trying to motivate me or help me in some manner.It wasn't until I achieved what they ere harping on me about ,that I realized that they were just being mean to feel better about themselves. . It became obvious to me that I had something in another area they lacked so they would rub it in that they had something I didn't, or try to greatly minimize or poo-poo every accomplishment I made.One has to remember that haters are really people that are filled with insecurities.

I, almost without exception get along great with every co-worker,but one everywhere I go. The reason is because there is always a hater out there who is jealous of at least one attribute I may have, no matter how small in my eyes that he wishes he had.Now when I listen to a hater,I know where they are coming from and they don't bother me anymore.

I don't mind criticism because it helps me improve,but I can usually tell when it is sincere criticism by the manner in which it is presented.Haters just try to tear you down in a tactless, deconstructive manner. So just ignore them, or feel good about yourself,knowing that they are most likely envious of you.

ALL criticism comes from ego! Ego comes from low self esteem.

If someone is threatened by your presence or feels less of a person than you, they will instantly try to bring you down to their level. Don't let people who don't know where they are going or what they are doing in life bring you down.

This is YOUR life and YOU choose how to live it. Who are they to judge ANYTHING you do?!

I actually dealt with one such "hater" very recently... I used to hang out with this one lady, who was pretty fun to talk to until a misunderstanding happened. After that, I gradually began to notice that she really never had anything good to say about ANYONE... including (and perhaps especially) me. Over time I began to feel less and less comfortable around her, but wasn't sure why, so for awhile I denied it.

After I bought my ticket into Warrior Event 2012 (! YES I AM GOING !) I loudly proclaimed that I'd gotten in on my Facebook, crowing that it will be a HUGE step in my long-term IM career (which it will be). I got a lot of Likes and people cheering me on... except for her.

That was my final straw with her, I took her off Facebook after that.

I cut off the negativity and turned to those who supported and encouraged me, and now I'm noticing a lot more positive energy from those I care about. Synchronicity? LOA? I believe so...

I know some people say that it gives them motivation to prove someone wrong and rub it in their faces when they hate on you.I try not to stoop to their level,but it does give me motivation to see them get more jealous.The thing is, in my experience is the haters who become really toxic are the ones who call themselves friends.It doesn't even matter what you achieve they will try to to continuously negate or diminish any accomplishment you make. I could think I have the most attractive girlfriend or best job and they'll get me thinking my girlfriend is ugly and my job sucks. These people make the saying"With Friends Like these who need enemies" very relevant

Its hard to completely ignore coworkers because you have to work with them,but friends who are constantly being negative and not rooting for you when something good happens need to be dropped completely. They don't meet the definition of friends. It may sound cruel but life's too short to hang around people who bring you down.If one wants to be happy they need to be around positive and happy people.Watch out for the major guilt trip and the numerous calls down the road when you try to end it. Toxic friends are hard to get rid of because they're like parasites who feed off of your self esteem to feel better about themselves and they hate when they lose their host!

It's a defense response; people find reasons to reject something they can't have. If they want something but then find out they can't have it, they very often find flaws in it, so "it's not that good, anyway". This way, they protect their own self-worth and their emotional state.
In my experience, haters are usually losers; they want to have the success you have and are jealous, so they protect their emotions by simply hating you and letting as many people as possible know about it.
Just try to ignore them!

Allen

Second place has no haters.

The best revenge on a hater is true success. If you have haters...you are doing something right...triple it..and they will say...they cant stand you.


I love it...

CashMonk
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Instead of trying to bring themselves up to your level, haters try to bring you down to their level to feel better about themselves. Best thing to do is ignore them - nothing pisses them more off than indifference!

Remember that nothing means anything unless you make it something. Haters only make a difference if you care about they say or do.

Just bless these people and move on with your life and do what's important for you.

Surround yourself with people who truly support you...real friends.