Let's be Honest.. Do You See a Sign of Midlife Crisis in You?

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I am 38, single, and I think sometimes I start to feel something that I can consider a sign of mid life crises. Many people actually suffer but they are not aware what it is..

7 Signs You Might Be Facing A Midlife Crisis
  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    A rather fluff piece in my opinion.

    You should always have more questions than you have answers.

    In articles like that I notice often the writer begins with one or two short, precise "reasons" or "symptoms"....then as they come up with more each one seems to require more explanation to make it work.

    I do think many people have a midlife crisis - several times during their life. Times when you realize you are getting older, when you realize you aren't where you thought you would be...you aren't as smart as you assumed you were....that people don't think about you and how you look nearly as much as you thought they did.
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    Originally Posted by Adie View Post

    I am 38, single, and I think sometimes I start to feel something that I can consider a sign of mid life crises.
    Ooh, I think somehow I'd always envisaged you as a "family guy", Adie (I don't know why, though!).

    I hope it won't come across as "cheeky", when someone under 2/3rds of your age offers an observation, but I often wonder, when people say this, if "mid-life crisis" is sometimes a kind of self-perpetuating "label" that people can too easily attach to any kind of "emotional turmoil" they happen to feel in their late-thirties/early-forties, though, just because it's an expression in such common parlance?

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      Originally Posted by Alexa Smith View Post

      Ooh, I think somehow I'd always envisaged you as a "family guy", Adie (I don't know why, though!). .
      We have a big family who are close to each other so I guess its not really different from having your own family.

      I hope it won't come across as "cheeky", when someone under 2/3rds of your age offers an observation, but I often wonder, when people say this, if "mid-life crisis" is sometimes a kind of self-perpetuating "label" that people can too easily attach to any kind of "emotional turmoil" they happen to feel in their late-thirties/early-forties, though, just because it's an expression in such common parlance?
      I had the same thinking several years ago but without other people telling me about this "mid-life crisis" thing, I just discovered it myself. I have different symptoms from that article I posted above though. I believe all people are experiencing mid-life crises. It's just depends on how one handles it. Other people who doesn't believe it says it's psychological, but its not.
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      • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
        I've often wondered about this.

        When I was very young I wanted to be older, to drive, to have a beer, even to smoke a cigarette. I couldn't, all the adults could. That was just life.

        When you hit puberty there's confusion as you go from child to adult but it's just called your teenage years, or your hormones.

        In your early twenties fresh out of school or uni some wonder about what they're going to do and what career they'll take. I know a few people that lost there way then but it has no label that I know of.

        When you retire and suddenly no longer work, I've heard some people find it hard adjusting to life at home, the loss of work place camaraderie and purpose in life but it's called retirement.

        Some people as they get older worry about the time they've left and where it all went but it's just called 'getting old'.

        Then at around mid age you have a crisis.

        Why is this a crisis and all the others are not? You could argue that you experienced a crisis all the way through.

        Funny old world, don't mind me, just thinking out loud.
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          I never experienced any of the symptoms. And I never understood guys that did.
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            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            I never experienced any of the symptoms. And I never understood guys that did.
            I'm guessing it is because your mid-section crisis is what bothers you...

            "A waist is a terrible thing to mind."
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            • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
              Originally Posted by Kurt View Post

              I'm guessing it is because your mid-section crisis is what bothers you...

              "A waist is a terrible thing to mind."
              I'm not fat, I'm inflatable. My ego is already as inflated as it can get. A small prick would burst it.....

              And I suspect that you're just the guy qualified to do it.

              (My greatest pleasure is knowing that you'll get that)
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              • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
                Some years ago I expanded the meaning of crisis to [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                By the time you get to Sal's age, one has literally dozens of these life-[crisis/confusion about/opportunity]'s.

                First day of school [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Pre-teen [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                First kiss [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                First sex [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Where to find more sex [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Start Junior High [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Where to find more sex [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Move to small town in Florida [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Where to find more sex [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].

                Want/need some money [crisis/confusion about/opportunity].
                ...

                You get the idea.

                After a while I realized that ratio of crisis to confusion about/opportunity is pretty low.

                Just my observation.

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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                I'm not fat
                So much for the "let's be honest" part...
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            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            I never experienced any of the symptoms. And I never understood guys that did.
            That is because you are not one that is prone to feeling sorry for yourself.

            Sorry, but that is what I think Mid Life Crisis is, and good excuse to have a pity party and feel sorry for yourself.

            Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, how about think about all the great things you did do for others. And if you didn't do things for others, now would be a good time to resolve to start.
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  • Profile picture of the author Adie
    Why is this a crisis and all the others are not? You could argue that you experienced a crisis all the way through.
    APA has better explanation on this. It is crisis according to them because at that age, a person is over stressed. The reason why he is over stressed is because he have full control of his life, unlike when he was younger (dependent on parents) or older (dependent on children and relatives)..
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    • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
      Originally Posted by Adie View Post

      APA has better explanation on this. It is crisis according to them because at that age, a person is over stressed. The reason why he is over stressed is because he have full control of his life, unlike when he was younger (dependent on parents) or older (dependent on children and relatives)..
      Thanks Adie.

      I'm not arguing in any way either Adie, just chucking things out there but that's sort of what I was getting at. One is over stressed because they have control over their life. I'd have thought the stress of not having control over your life would have been more stressful and therefore more of a crisis? Especially the period of going from child to adult during puberty and so on. Or when you're wife dies for example and you suddenly become dependent on younger relatives. I'd have thought that lack of control was at least frustrating and therefore more stressful.

      As I said, I'm not saying it's not a crisis and you're not suffering this, just that it seems strange in some ways you're over stressed by actually being in control. I can see how this can be more stressful as the control comes with responsibilities but many of those responsibilities you actually strived to achieve. (Not you personally either, I meant in general)

      Either way, if you are suffering I hope you get through it and for the record I'm exactly the same age as you are.

      I'm logging off now so if I don't reply I'll be back tomorrow as I find this quite an interesting subject. Good luck though Adie, I hope you're ok.
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    Originally Posted by Adie View Post

    I am 38, single, and I think sometimes I start to feel something that I can consider a sign of mid life crises. Many people actually suffer but they are not aware what it is..

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  • Profile picture of the author Adie
    Either way, if you are suffering I hope you get through it and for the record I'm exactly the same age as you are.

    I'm logging off now so if I don't reply I'll be back tomorrow as I find this quite an interesting subject. Good luck though Adie, I hope you're ok.
    No problem at all. I am not suffering anyway. I consider this crisis positive on my ends somehow.. going to bed now.. have a nice day to everyone..
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    You could say that if you're not going from one crisis to another, your life is stale.
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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      The only sign l see, if it is one, is losing a tooth, well a tooth because of a nasty viral infection l had last year!

      And since the rest are healthy and didn't need fillings, etc, l at least know that my hygiene regimen is sound.


      Or l can go on a Chocolate Cake binge, without becoming a toothless wonder!


      I always knew that unlike others, regretting not going for it, would be something l would not fret about at 50!

      Or giving a damn what others think, etc.


      I am going under the pliers tomorrow, wish me luck!


      Gulp!
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by socialentry View Post

      You could say that if you're not going from one crisis to another, your life is stale.
      That's an interesting take. My question is "How bad is it before you think of it as a crisis?"

      I've gone through the usual life problems, deaths, money problems, divorce....

      But if I were to list what I thought of as a crisis, the list would be blank.
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    I think it would be more like a 3/4 life crisis in my case. But no, phuck that kind of neurotic scheiße.
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    I always though I'd be dead by 30 so I had my midlife crisis when I was 15. Glad to get it out of the way sooner than later.
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    • Profile picture of the author ThomM
      After going over that list I either haven't hit my mid life yet or I'm going through it now. Either way at almost 62 that ain't bad
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        I never experienced any of the symptoms.
        Nor have I. If self-reflection is what leads to a mid-life crisis, as the article suggests, I've been doing that since I was a teen so perhaps I experienced it one little bite at a time so it never builds into a full-blown crisis.

        On the other hand, if I were to have a mid-life crisis now, it means I'd live to be 120.
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          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          Nor have I. If self-reflection is what leads to a mid-life crisis, as the article suggest, I've been doing that since I was a teen so perhaps I experienced it one little bite at a time, thus preventing a crisis.

          On the other hand, if I were to have a mid-life crisis now, it means I'd live to be 120.
          I could be wrong. But are you saying your 60, Dennis ?

          You sure dont look it in picture.

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            Originally Posted by discrat View Post

            I could be wrong. But are you saying your 60 ?

            You sure dont look it in picture
            59 - I rounded it off. My senility prevents me from multiplying odd numbers.

            The picture is about 5 years old, but thanks.

            True story - I was leaving a store the other day and held the door open for a lady. She said, "Thank you, young man." I said, "You're welcome, thank you for calling me a young man."

            She said, "Well I'm 50 and you look younger than me."

            I told her I was 59, but I don't think she liked that part. lol
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              Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

              59 - I rounded it off. My senility prevents me from multiplying odd numbers.

              The picture is about 5 years old, but thanks.

              True story - I was leaving a store the other day and held the door open for a lady. She said, "Thank you, young man." I said, "You're welcome, thank you for calling me a young man."

              She said, "Well I'm 50 and you look younger than me."

              I told her I was 59, but I don't think she liked that part. lol

              Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
                Natures way of keeping senility off the streets I guess.
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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
                2 more days and I will join the club. Is their an entrance fee?. I have a consignment of incontinence pads if that will do?
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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
                I just followed the directions on my invitation. Weren't you invited, too? Don't tell me you're an interloper.
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                • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
                  Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

                  I don't think my crisis has anything to do with age. I think it's a BS crisis. I'm just so fed up with BS taking my time and energy and causing problems that I just want a carte blanche permit to bitch slap stupid people.

                  Just got out of the DMV, waiting forever for a 5 minute errand - the post office, to find out why someone else's mail is in my box lately and mine's getting returned to sender -- then to a store advertising a sale on one of my favorite products....and it's more expensive on sale than it ever was normally. Listened to two illegals bitching about their jobs while watching a woman with a whole litter of kids paying for her purchase of a cart of GMO infested junk food with food stamps, and have had my boss whining about how bad business is when he mishandles every damned account and client he pulls in.

                  Now - is that a mid-life crisis or is it the onset of "Bitchy old lady can't handle any more BS" syndrome?
                  Yeah, l know that l am already on your slap list, but l have punched myself up so many times about the stupidest thing l have done in my life, (lending money to subcreatures) l am pretty much over it!

                  But true, l am pretty p**** about the inbalances of power and control in this world, and how the wealthy turn a blind eye to it all. Maybe they know something l don't, or are too scared to try, or they couldn't be bothered?


                  Either way, someone finding out what is really going on, and then at least giving the masses a taste of what is being suppressed, would give me endless joy, and hope for humanity!


                  Well, that and stupid Mothers sitting next to you at a quiet coffee shop with their, (most of the shopping centre can hear your child) talk, etc!

                  But crying babies are worse, some of the smart ones, sit outside the shop, in the shopping centre, and the dumb ones, bring it in and even face it towards you so you can get the full effect!

                  Grrrrrr!

                  Although the ones with the child that constantly screams while everyone in their family thinks, "isn't that cute" are at the top of my stupid list!


                  Sal it sounds like you should get out in the hills again, get away from all the stupid people for a while!


                  I will probably go through a mid life crises today, after the tooth pull, but a nasty piece of Chocolate cake should help!

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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
                Well, this is just a guess, but I bet it has to do with some people being born in 1952 to 1956 period
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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
                People where having a lot of unprotected sex in the 50's?
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                  Originally Posted by ThomM View Post

                  People where having a lot of unprotected sex in the 50's?
                  Can't be, sex was only invented in the 60's.
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                  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
                    Originally Posted by WalkingCarpet View Post

                    Can't be, sex was only invented in the 60's.
                    That can't be. I'm not in my 60's yet, and I've had plenty of sex....and with women!

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                      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                      That can't be. I'm not in my 60's yet, and I've had plenty of sex....and with women!

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                        Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                        The "I'm not fat, I'm inflatable" man can only have sex with inflatable women

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                        C,mon lanfear you need to set a good example of the younger crowd here, l will help you out!


                        But Claude always practices safe sex by wearing a Laytex bubblewrap suit; the black leather Batman suit is optional!


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                          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

                          C,mon lanfear you need to set a good example of the younger crowd here, l will help you out!


                          But Claude always practices safe sex by wearing a Laytex bubblewrap suit; the black leather Batman suit is optional!


                          Wouldn't like to bump into him on a Dark Knight.
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                          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

                          C,mon lanfear you need to set a good example of the younger crowd here, l will help you out!


                          But Claude always practices safe sex by wearing a Laytex bubblewrap suit; the black leather Batman suit is optional!


                          At my age, safe sex is a handshake.


                          Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                          The "I'm not fat, I'm inflatable" man can only have sex with inflatable women

                          Lan "Master of satirical logic" fear63
                          I'll be honest with you, an hour with a beautiful woman, where we are trying to inflate each other...doesn't sound all that bad. I could love that woman...or at least be inflateuated with her.


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                            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                            At my age, safe sex is a handshake.




                            I'll be honest with you, an hour with a beautiful woman, where we are trying to inflate each other...doesn't sound all that bad. I could love that woman...or at least be inflateuated with her.


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                            Umm, Claude, "inflateuated" sounds way too much like flatulence. Perhaps she inflated you too much and you sprung a leak?


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                              Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

                              Umm, Claude, "inflateuated" sounds way too much like flatulence. Perhaps she inflated you too much and you sprung a leak?


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                              Terra;

                              First, I missed you.

                              Second, your obsession with flatulence is both disturbing....and explains your attraction to Riffle.

                              Third, Clever. Flatulence-inflated-spring a leak. Even Riffle could follow that.



                              But.....
                              Ask any man...they can never be inflated too much, or too often.
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                                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                                Terra;

                                First, I missed you.

                                Second, your obsession with flatulence is both disturbing....and explains your attraction to Riffle.

                                Third, Clever. Flatulence-inflated-spring a leak. Even Riffle could follow that.



                                But.....
                                Ask any man...they can never be inflated too much, or too often.
                                First, Aww, thanks for missing me.

                                Second, You have the Riffle attraction thingy bass ackwards. However, the flatulence thing comes from years of living with hubby and then son and how just that word itself makes them crack up. There is nothing more heartwarming than to hear the both of them laugh regardless of the reason.

                                Third, thanks! You know, like blowing up a balloon and then letting the air out...flatulence noises. =P

                                And...I'm not even going there...


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                            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                            At my age, safe sex is a handshake.
                            Does anyone remember the days when "safe sex" meant doing it when her parents were out?
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                              Originally Posted by whateverpedia View Post

                              Does anyone remember the days when "safe sex" meant doing it when her parents were out?
                              I wish. When I was a teenager, Safe sex meant washing your hands.
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                              Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

                              Ya know -- I was just thinking............

                              I was just getting into my middle ages when I got rid of the sports cars I always drove and got my first 4WD and started hitting the rock and gem fields. I wonder if that was actually a mid life crisis. My life completely changed about that time.

                              Guys buy sports cars, I ditched mine. Sounds appropriate, I guess.
                              I don't know Sal, is it a crisis if you don't know it's a crisis?
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                    • Profile picture of the author positivenegative
                      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                      I'm not in my 60's yet, and I've had plenty of sex....and with women!
                      Said by Claude, the master of the . . . afterthought!
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                      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                      That can't be. I'm not in my 60's yet, and I've had plenty of sex....and with women!
                      And Babs, Wooster's only day time hooker with over 70 years of experience, thanks you...
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                        Finished that for you . . .

                        Originally Posted by Kurt View Post

                        And Babs, Wooster's only day time hooker with over 70 years of experience, thanks you... and says the free "shake and vac" was a plus.
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                          Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                          Wouldn't like to bump into him on a Dark Knight.
                          Yes, l only need to "Bif" or "Kapow" a wild bat, and l would be on his short hit list!

                          Gulp!

                          Might have to stay with slaughtering fluffy bunnies?
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              • Profile picture of the author AprilCT
                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?
                Hmm, Claude, maybe we are in the Old Folks Home down here? You know, like birds of a feather gathering together or something of that ilk?
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                • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
                  Originally Posted by AprilCT View Post

                  Hmm, Claude, maybe we are in the Old Folks Home down here? You know, like birds of a feather gathering together or something of that ilk?
                  Spoken like a true, ummm ... owl.
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              • Profile picture of the author MikeAmbrosio
                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Strange. It seems that there are a lot of us in the 58-62 age range. Anyone have an idea why that is?

                Um, because you were born around the same time?

                Just taking a stab there...
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    I don't think my crisis has anything to do with age. I think it's a BS crisis. I'm just so fed up with BS taking my time and energy and causing problems that I just want a carte blanche permit to bitch slap stupid people.

    Just got out of the DMV, waiting forever for a 5 minute errand - the post office, to find out why someone else's mail is in my box lately and mine's getting returned to sender -- then to a store advertising a sale on one of my favorite products....and it's more expensive on sale than it ever was normally. Listened to two illegals bitching about their jobs while watching a woman with a whole litter of kids paying for her purchase of a cart of GMO infested junk food with food stamps, and have had my boss whining about how bad business is when he mishandles every damned account and client he pulls in.

    Now - is that a mid-life crisis or is it the onset of "Bitchy old lady can't handle any more BS" syndrome?
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      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Now - is that a mid-life crisis or is it the onset of "Bitchy old lady can't handle any more BS" syndrome?
      Lol, Sal! That's not a mid-life crisis - that's just getting older and wiser! And that's a good thing at any age!
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    BTW - if one more man that lives with mommy, has no car, no jobs, and no income of his own asks me out, you're gonna see why I say guns aren't what kills people.

    Good thread for the day. I needed this rant.
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  • Profile picture of the author whateverpedia
    Mid-life crisis?

    Shee-it, I haven't gotten over my childhood crises (note the plural use of the word) yet.

    After that I've got to deal with my adolescent crises, then my early adulthood crises.

    Mid-life crises are a long way off yet.






















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  • Profile picture of the author positivenegative
    Originally Posted by Adie View Post

    Do You See a Sign of Midlife Crisis in You?
    And for the dyslexics amongst us . . .

    Midwife crisis affects a whole generation
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  • Profile picture of the author MikeAmbrosio
    I've seen too many definitions of mid life crisis to be sure if I ever had one. To me, any crisis is simply an issue you can't or won't deal with

    Like Dennis, I have spent time reflecting on my past, thinking about my future and enjoying the present enough to not really have any crises in my life - none worth getting my undies in a bunch over, anyway.

    I am 50 now. Other than my body taking a little longer to recover from things, I still feel like I did in my 20's.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      I think you guys should all know that I can dish it out, but I can't take it.


      Originally Posted by AprilCT View Post

      Hmm, Claude, maybe we are in the Old Folks Home down here? You know, like birds of a feather gathering together or something of that ilk?
      You are very nice to me. When my people invade this planet....I will tell them to spare you.



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      So much for the "let's be honest" part...
      I'm not fat, I'm big boned. How do I know it's bone? Because I can't flex it...so it must be bone....soft...mushy.....bone.
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  • Profile picture of the author barbling
    I'm so nonoptimal these days my idea of a mid-life crisis is yearning NOT to have a full 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Ya know -- I was just thinking............

    I was just getting into my middle ages when I got rid of the sports cars I always drove and got my first 4WD and started hitting the rock and gem fields. I wonder if that was actually a mid life crisis. My life completely changed about that time.

    Guys buy sports cars, I ditched mine. Sounds appropriate, I guess.
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    • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Ya know -- I was just thinking............

      I was just getting into my middle ages when I got rid of the sports cars I always drove and got my first 4WD and started hitting the rock and gem fields. I wonder if that was actually a mid life crisis. My life completely changed about that time.

      Guys buy sports cars, I ditched mine. Sounds appropriate, I guess.
      Ditched sports cars, or your guy with a sports car?
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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

        Ditched sports cars, or your guy with a sports car?
        I always had a sports car until I moved to Empire. Always. It had nothing to do with what guy I was with.

        However - guys with sports cars usually don't "get" the way of life I like either. I'm much more impressed with a great decked out 4WD rig than with a Jag (although those are my weakness of the sports lines). I like to spend most of my life off of the sidewalk. If a guy wants to use a sports car to impress me he's really kinda sol.
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        • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          I always had a sports car until I moved to Empire. Always. It had nothing to do with what guy I was with.

          However - guys with sports cars usually don't "get" the way of life I like either. I'm much more impressed with a great decked out 4WD rig than with a Jag (although those are my weakness of the sports lines). I like to spend most of my life off of the sidewalk. If a guy wants to use a sports car to impress me he's really kinda sol.
          I moved from Denver to the Mountains in '97. That was the last-time I had a car.
          Need vehicles with ground clearance and 4x4 is strongly preferred.
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          • Profile picture of the author HeySal
            Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

            I moved from Denver to the Mountains in '97. That was the last-time I had a car.
            Need vehicles with ground clearance and 4x4 is strongly preferred.
            Uh huh. The REVERSE ML Crisis.

            Where the people ensconced in the shallow constricts of the status quos reach a point in their lives they know they are missing something - and try to travel backward in time to seek security pretending to be youthful .........

            The reversers realize that it is the status quos creating the emptiness and reject their sports cars. You got it the right way. I landed in the mountains at the age of around 32 or 33 and that was it for me. Younger than I've ever been now in some ways......no empty spaces even alone, other than where a dog should be.

            Reversers come out way ahead after their "crisis" unlike the "Sports car syndrome" crashers who usually carry a residual bag of "issues" the rest of their life.
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    While I don't particularly care for sports cars, every middle aged man that buys one isn't having a "crisis". Often, it's simply a case of them having wanted a sports car for a long time, but it wasn't until their 40s or 50s that they had the money.

    Generally speaking, men in the 40s and 50s simply earn more than they did in their 20s, and their kids are grown and left home, so they have more money to spend on themselves.

    I think one has to be very judgemental to make a blanket statement that because a man in his 40s and 50s is driving a sports car is because he's having a "crisis". Maybe it's because he can finally afford one and he's just having fun?
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    • Profile picture of the author MikeAmbrosio
      Originally Posted by Kurt View Post

      While I don't particularly care for sports cars, every middle aged man that buys one isn't having a "crisis". Often, it's simply a case of them having wanted a sports car for a long time, but it wasn't until their 40s or 50s that they had the money.

      Generally speaking, men in the 40s and 50s simply earn more than they did in their 20s, and their kids are grown and left home, so they have more money to spend on themselves.

      I think one has to be very judgemental to make a blanket statement that because a man in his 40s and 50s is driving a sports car is because he's having a "crisis". Maybe it's because he can finally afford one and he's just having fun?

      Yup. Me and my Harley.

      I've been riding motorcycles for over 30 years and have ALWAYS wanted a Softail. I can now afford one, so I bought one. And I have been having a blast
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      • Profile picture of the author Kurt
        Originally Posted by MikeAmbrosio View Post

        Yup. Me and my Harley.

        I've been riding motorcycles for over 30 years and have ALWAYS wanted a Softail. I can now afford one, so I bought one. And I have been having a blast
        Actually, I meant OTHER men. You are having a crisis.
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        • Profile picture of the author MikeAmbrosio
          Originally Posted by Kurt View Post

          Actually, I meant OTHER men. You are having a crisis.
          Hmm - you may be right. I am contemplating a first tattoo...
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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      Originally Posted by Kurt View Post

      While I don't particularly care for sports cars, every middle aged man that buys one isn't having a "crisis". Often, it's simply a case of them having wanted a sports car for a long time, but it wasn't until their 40s or 50s that they had the money.

      Generally speaking, men in the 40s and 50s simply earn more than they did in their 20s, and their kids are grown and left home, so they have more money to spend on themselves.

      I think one has to be very judgemental to make a blanket statement that because a man in his 40s and 50s is driving a sports car is because he's having a "crisis". Maybe it's because he can finally afford one and he's just having fun?
      Just because that's a logical assumption doesn't make it any good for OT discussion. Stop it.
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    And I'm out of thanks for posts 64 on.

    Age 26, I had a bit of stress realizing I was not going to be US President or something.
    I was not as far along in life as I thought I should be. That past and I have not really had
    such issues since.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

      And I'm out of thanks for posts 64 on.

      Age 26, I had a bit of stress realizing I was not going to be US President or something.
      I was not as far along in life as I thought I should be. That past and I have not really had
      such issues since.
      I had a few of those days. When I realized that I wasn't young enough to be a Boy Wonder anymore. (I was considered a Wunderkind when I was in my early twenties, selling life insurance)
      The first time my son and I arm wrestled....he won...and it wasn't because I let him.
      The first time we were in a restaurant, and realized that we (my wife and I) were the oldest couple there.

      But these impressions lasted a moment. Just signs that time moves on.
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