Has your life ever gone to ****?

11 years ago

I just keep zigging and zagging. Just keep on moving. Persistence and hard work create their own luck.

Of course, you have to do some reflecting to determine if you're just hitting a bad streak or are deliberately sabotaging yourself.

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Kay King

11 years ago

Been there - done that...and more than once.

What you want to do is go off into a corner and scream - throw up your hands - give up - etc

You accept that you can't always control what happens to you but you can control how you react. It's also a good time to find out what you're made of.

The only time in my life when I've used a "mantra" was a very long bad period I went through. I told myself "shit is fertilizer - grow out of it". Sounds stupid now - but it worked when I needed it.

Also helps to remember everyone has bad times - some people live their entire life in crisis. Keeping that in mind makes your problems look a bit more manageable.

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whateverpedia 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Kay King

Been there - done that...and more than once.

Same here. Frequently down, but never out.
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Synnuh

11 years ago

After I went through my divorce, the next year seemed like I couldn't win.

Every time I'd feel good about something, a curve ball would come in from left field and knock me back down into depression.

It took a while to get out of it, but like Dan said, keep shucking and jiving and it will work out.

I likened it to bashing my head against a concrete wall. Even though my head was already bloody from doing it, the wall was still standing, so I kept bashing until it broke down.

I read something that life is like a bow & arrow. You've gotta be pulled back to be propelled forward.

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I'm doing better now mentally than I have in the last 30 years, and the financial future looks brighter than I could have dreamed possible.

Stay at it. One thing that really helped me was making a list of every problem I had in my life. It was a big one. I started knocking out every single issue one by one, systematically.

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Kay King 11 years ago

I like the bow/arrow analogy.

Sometimes, too, you need to be too stubborn to give in. Eventually it gets better.
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- BigFrank Banned 11 years ago
  
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  Sometimes, too, you need to be too stubborn to give in.
  
  That has generally been my technique.
  
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Dan Riffle 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Synnuh

but like Dan said, keep shucking and jiving and it will work out.

Get outta my head, man. I actually had those words written but edited to "zigging and zagging."
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BigFrank Banned 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Synnuh

After I went through my divorce, the next year seemed like I couldn't win.

But you just did. I'm guessing it took a little time for you to realize it.

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- Dan Riffle 11 years ago
  
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  But you just did. I'm guessing it took a little time for you to realize it.
  
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  There is one awesome side to divorce: You can finally watch SportsCenter in sweet, blissful silence.
  
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  BigFrank Banned 11 years ago
  
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  There is one awesome side to divorce: You can finally watch SportsCenter in sweet, blissful silence.
  
  And you can have sex, alone. That sharing crap is for the birds.
  
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  Dan Riffle 11 years ago
  
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  And you can have sex, alone. That sharing crap is for the birds.
  
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  Hell, I've been married for 14 years and it still hasn't stopped me from having sex alone.
  
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Tom Addams

11 years ago

Originally Posted by Sumit Menon

Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.

I often feel this way when I'm playing on the Xbox with my daughter. To add insult to injury - because she knows this fact - she'll often play with one eye closed. Talk about kicking a guy when he's down.

On a serious note, Sumit:

"I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse."

–Florence Nightingale

Some other great quotes here that might inspire you:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkru...tional-quotes/

Cheers,

Tom

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Zodiax 11 years ago

Most of the time the 'shit' that we go through is a projection of what we have manifested through our view of the world.

Every thought and action is a prayer.
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discrat

11 years ago

Originally Posted by Sumit Menon

Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

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I think if you have a pulse and are over 20 yrs.old... YES ,of course

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hardraysnight 11 years ago

Originally Posted by discrat

I think if you have a pulse and are over 20 yrs.old... YES ,of course

i think my pulse must have stopped when i was 19
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DaveTheSinister

11 years ago

Originally Posted by Sumit Menon

Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.

How did you get out of it? Just wondering..

Sumit.

I really enjoy hearing people's life stories. Not just IMers but most people's stories. One thing I have noticed is that everyone goes through trials and tribulations. I have come to believe that life is always about balances and in order for a person to gain success they must first know failure.

Something that helped me was a quote by Les Brown. "You have to fail your way to success." Forget what everyone tells you. Forget about the issues glaring you in the face and PUSH ON.

You will ultimately reach a point where you look back at this moment and laugh. Now, here is a bit of game for you. How can you flip your negative situation into a positive? What little nugget of gold can you take from all of this? There is a positive that can be taken from your situation. Find that and you will have an easier time dealing with your situation.

Hope this helps
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MissTerraK 11 years ago

Doesn't everyone's? LOL!

When I've gone through disappointing streaks in the past, I just thought of myself as an apple tree that needed a good, cold, hard winter in order to bear the sweetest fruit in the spring and summer seasons.

At other times I thought of myself as a piece of art in progress and realized that strong lasting art sculptures are not created with toothpicks and tweezers, but out of hammers and chisels and determined that I was strong enough to take it and would be a valuable masterpiece when the sculpture was completed.

Those always have worked for me.

Terra
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yukon

Banned 11 years ago

Has your life ever gone to shit?

That's never happened to me because I'm awesome.

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HeySal

11 years ago

Ah, gee, Sumit - if you only knew. I was just getting stabilized and just got kicked in the face and knocked down............again.

What I do? I have a screaming hissy fit where I just go somewhere and scream obscenities about everything and anything. Then I take some me time to get away from it. For me that is going out and hunting some great agates or crystals.

Then I go home, get a good night's sleep, wake up slow and drink a couple of cups of coffee and figure out my next move - then I start working on making that move.

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Tom Addams

11 years ago

Originally Posted by Sumit Menon

Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.

How did you get out of it? Just wondering..

Sumit.

Sumit,

If you feel comfortable doing it - tell us a little about why you're currently feeling this way. Trust me, buddy, not a single one of us has it easy all of the time. Often the best way to help yourself is by asking for help from others. It looks like most of the folks above could give you a lot of helpful advice if you want it. Remember this, too - tomorrow is another day. You never know what's around the corner.

Tom

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@tjr

11 years ago

I had a few months a few years ago where I slept behind a dentists office, and my one meal a day was leftover pizza from the nearby Papa Johns dumpster. I guess you for say I've been through some shit lol.

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Dan Riffle

11 years ago

Originally Posted by @tjr

I had a few months a few years ago where I slept behind a dentists office, and my one meal a day was leftover pizza from the nearby Papa Johns dumpster. I guess you for say I've been through some shit lol.

I'm surprised you didn't just eat at Disney.

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Claude Whitacre

11 years ago

Decades ago, I had a few low points. But it was always my fault. Stupid choices, laziness, moronic use of my time....all my fault.

Sometimes friends helped me out, sometimes I crawled out of the hole myself.

Eventually, it dawned on me that I was the one causing my troubles, and I could change what I was doing.

Originally Posted by Dan Riffle

Hell, I've been married for 14 years and it still hasn't stopped me from having sex alone.

Admit it, your wife insists.

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Dan Riffle 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre

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yukon

Banned 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre

Decades ago, I had a few low points. But it was always my fault. Stupid choices, laziness, moronic use of my time....all my fault.

Sometimes friends helped me out, sometimes I crawled out of the hole myself.

Eventually, it dawned on me that I was the one causing my troubles, and I could change what I was doing.

Admit it, your wife insists.

Careful, that might end up in a forum sig.

Sometimes I crawled out of the hole myself. - Claude Whitacre

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Claude Whitacre 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Dan Riffle

I'm surprised you didn't just eat at Disney.

That's a terrible idea. The line to the dumpster at Disney takes hours. And then the sign says, "Dumpster Pizza, $35 a slice".
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rosario1990

11 years ago

Originally Posted by @tjr

I had a few months a few years ago where I slept behind a dentists office, and my one meal a day was leftover pizza from the nearby Papa Johns dumpster. I guess you for say I've been through some shit lol.

That's was your crucial time. Living with just little bit of food.

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MissTerraK

11 years ago

Has your life ever gone to shit?

Oh yeah, but I've always made it through fertilized, haha!

So, people, when your life goes to crap, make fertilizer.

Sorry, I couldn't help myself.

Terra

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Zodiax

11 years ago

Originally Posted by MissTerraK

Oh yeah, but I've always made it through fertilized, haha!

So, people, when your life goes to crap, make fertilizer.

Sorry, I couldn't help myself.

Terra

Add lots of sunshine too!

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MissTerraK 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Zodiax

Add lots of sunshine too!

Oh yeah!

I can't live without sunshine!

Terra
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- tagiscom 11 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre
  
  That's a terrible idea. The line to the dumpster at Disney takes hours. And then the sign says, "Dumpster Pizza, $35 a slice".
  
  Disneyland? I thought that it was all warm and fuzzy there, and dumpsters didn't exist?
  
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Claude Whitacre

11 years ago

Originally Posted by MissTerraK

Oh yeah, but I've always made it through fertilized, haha!

So, people, when your life goes to crap, make fertilizer.

Sorry, I couldn't help myself.

Terra

Actually, the saying is, "When your life goes to crap, make lemonade".

And that explains why my lemonade tastes so bad.

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Dan Riffle 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre

Actually, the saying is, "When your life goes to crap, make lemonade".

And that explains why my lemonade tastes so bad.

No, you're both wrong. The saying is, "When life gives you lemons, take a crap." It's a testament to one of the certain things in life: No matter how good or bad things are, you'll always have bowel movements.

Do you people read at all?
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Floyd Fisher

11 years ago

"If you're going through hell, keep going."

-Winston Churchill

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yukon Banned 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Floyd Fisher

"If you're going through hell, keep going."

-Winston Churchill

Lol, right, don't slow down now.
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- Dan Riffle 11 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Floyd Fisher
  
  "If you're going through hell, keep going."
  
  -Winston Churchill
  
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  Lol, right, don't slow down now.
  
  You guys have the beginnings of a country song.
  
  Hey, wait a minute:
  
  Rodney Atkins - If You're Going Through Hell...
  
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  LynnM 11 years ago
  
  Yes, but it gets better, eventually. Having friends to listen and provide a shoulder helps a lot. I think of life as going along a road - sometimes there are bumps in the road that you have to get over. Sometimes they're mountains, but you just have to keep going until you get to the other side. And you will
  
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leilapearse

Banned 11 years ago

Yes of course! Been there, done that.. but don't ever lose hope, just always believe in yourself

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trustedmarketer

11 years ago

I think we have all been there. We are all faced with difficult times but we need to be strong and fight on.

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Deos

11 years ago

Trust me, if i even told you what have i been though you wouldn't even believe it, my best advice is:When all of your hope is gone, remember that the darkest hour is just before the dawn.

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Sumit Menon 11 years ago

Hi. Thanks everyone for the replies. My wifi has stopped working because of the rains. So I am on the phone and it's really hard to read through everything on it.

I will get back to y'all when my internet starts working again.

Thanks again.

Sumit.
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Sumit Menon

11 years ago

Hey guys,

Thanks for all the motivation.

I am better now. Once you accept the reality of things, it gets easier.

I'll keep coming back to read this thread whenever I feel down.

Thanks everyone,
Sumit.

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yukon

Banned 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Sumit Menon

Hey guys,

Thanks for all the motivation.

I am better now. Once you accept the reality of things, it gets easier.

I'll keep coming back to read this thread whenever I feel down.

Thanks everyone,
Sumit.

There you go, you got the forum sig right.

"When I get sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead." - Barney Stinson

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bojan92

11 years ago

Many times my life was bad and i had no wish to go on, but than i remember that there are so many beautiful things around me. That keeps me going every single time.

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