Do you consider yourself a good person?

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What qualifies you as such?

By what standard?

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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      I don't know how to answer this one. Is being a "nice" person a prerequisite for being a good one?
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        Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

        I don't know how to answer this one. Is being a "nice" person a prerequisite for being a good one?
        I don't ether. I think I'm a selfish person more then a good person.
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    When I am good, I'm very, very good and when I am bad, I'm very, very bad.
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      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      When I am good, I'm very, very good and when I am bad, I'm very, very bad.
      Please do let us know when the good is due to arrive. We'll need to document that extremely rare occurrence for posterity.

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      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      When I am good, I'm very, very good and when I am bad, I'm very, very bad.
      What is your standard for good and bad? General consensus?
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        Originally Posted by dog8food View Post

        What is your standard for good and bad? General consensus?
        If you are a serial-killer but would never harm an animal, you are A-OK in my book.

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          Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

          If you are a serial-killer but would never harm an animal, you are A-OK in my book.

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          Let's not forget that the Chancellor of Germany from 1933-1945 was kind and generous to children and animals as well as the adults he surrounded himself with, so I guess he was a "good person" as well, right?
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            Originally Posted by whateverpedia View Post

            Let's not forget that the Chancellor of Germany from 1933-1945 was kind and generous to children and animals as well as the adults he surrounded himself with, so I guess he was a "good person" as well, right?
            He gets no bonus points from me for being kind to children. If he was so kind to the animals why was he not feeding the children to them?

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      • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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        Originally Posted by dog8food View Post

        What is your standard for good and bad? General consensus?

        Don't have a standard. What is your agenda with these good and bad and humanity questions? That's the question I'd like to have answered.
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        • Profile picture of the author dog8food
          Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

          Don't have a standard.
          So how do you know if you're being "good" or "bad"?
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          • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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            Originally Posted by dog8food View Post

            So how do you know if you're being "good" or "bad"?
            You didn't answer my question and I don't know if I'm good or bad and don't really give it much thought. I live my life as I see fit. I get no complaints from people that matter to me. Those that don't matter to me, I could care less about their opinions.
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      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      When I am good, I'm very, very good and when I am bad, I'm very, very bad.
      Originally Posted by dog8food View Post

      What is your standard for good and bad? General consensus?
      Woooossshhhhh!!!
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        I get no complaints from people that matter to me. Those that don't matter to me, I could care less about their opinions.
        Exactly!

        There was a little girl and she had a little curl
        Right in the middle of her forehead.
        When she was good she was very, very good
        And when she was bad, she was horrid.

        She was also more fun than the average little girl with a curl.
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    I'm really good but my standards are low. My expectations are even lower.
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  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    Originally Posted by dog8food View Post

    What qualifies you as such?

    By what standard?

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    Define good. Do you mean generous? altruistic? kind to children and animals? Do you mean ambitious? a good husband? you treat people fairly?

    "Good" is very ambiguous.

    But if you just asked me if I was a good person? I'd think it was a silly question.

    Even Jeffery Dahmer thought he was a pretty good guy. Hitler thought he was a great guy.


    Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

    If you are a serial-killer but would never harm an animal, you are A-OK in my book.

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    Don't most individuals -- however wonderful, however horrible -- consider themselves to be a good person?

    Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

    When I am good, I'm very, very good and when I am bad, I'm very, very bad.
    By any chance, do you have a curl in the middle of your forehead?
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

      Don't most individuals -- however wonderful, however horrible -- consider themselves to be a good person?



      By any chance, do you have a curl in the middle of your forehead?
      I got the reference! I got the reference!
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  • Profile picture of the author writeaway
    I try to be generous. I try to lift people's spirits. I try to be part of the solution.

    Unfortunately, it doesn't always work.

    Still, I am happy with the fact that, at least, I try
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      Originally Posted by writeaway View Post

      I try to be generous. I try to lift people's spirits. I try to be part of the solution.
      Me, too. When I'm drunk.

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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        Let's not forget that the Chancellor of Germany from 1933-1945 was kind and generous to children and animals as well as the adults he surrounded himself with, so I guess he was a "good person" as well, right?
        You can only judge people by what they do. If they change what they do - you change your opinion.

        It's easy to make judgments after history has shown something to be true or someone to be good or bad. Not so easy when you have only your own view and judgement to rely on.

        Easy to be "right" when your opinions are formed long after an event has occurred and been judged right or wrong, good or bad.
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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

          You can only judge people by what they do. If they change what they do - you change your opinion.

          It's easy to make judgments after history has shown something to be true or someone to be good or bad. Not so easy when you have only your own view and judgement to rely on.

          Easy to be "right" when your opinions are formed long after an event has occurred and been judged right or wrong, good or bad.
          Insightful stuff.

          My actions are generally nicer than what I'm thinking. I'm kind to pretty much everyone. But it's not the way I'm thinking. It's just a conditioned response.

          I try to do what's fair, and people misinterpret that as kindness. It's not that I'm mean, just indifferent. When I'm talking to most people, I sound like I'm listening, concerned, empathetic........but it's all on the surface.

          I love my wife deeply...but it isn't because I'm a good person. It's because she's such a good person.
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            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            When I'm talking to most people, I sound like I'm listening, concerned, empathetic.
            Uh, no. Although, you did say, "most people."
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              • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                It's an act. I didn't feel I needed to act with you. I consider you a peer.
                So, with peers, you talk to the back of their skulls?
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                • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
                  Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

                  You must be a good person, you have the same surname as me!

                  Your name is Murphy? You wouldn't have anything to do with that dreaded law, would you?

                  Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

                  You can only judge people by what they do. If they change what they do - you change your opinion.

                  It's easy to make judgments after history has shown something to be true or someone to be good or bad. Not so easy when you have only your own view and judgement to rely on.

                  Easy to be "right" when your opinions are formed long after an event has occurred and been judged right or wrong, good or bad.


                  Makes sense . . . you sure you're on the right forum?
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            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            When I'm talking to people, no one is listening, concerned, empathetic.
            Fixed that for you.

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          Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

          You can only judge people by what they do. If they change what they do - you change your opinion.
          "We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves by our intentions".

          Montague Jocelyn King-Harmon
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          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
            Hmmm...Am I a good person?

            I've been told that, but I've also been told that I'm sooo bad.

            Well, if good vs evil is like Glenda the good witch of the North and evil is like the wicked witch of the West in the Wizard of Oz, I'd have to say I'm good.

            Now, just click your heels together three times and say, "There's no place like home, there's no place like home...

            Either that, or...





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        Originally Posted by writeaway
        I try to be generous. I try to lift people's spirits. I try to be part of the solution.
        Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

        Me, too. When I'm drunk.

        Cheers. - Frank
        You lift people's spirits? That's dreadful of you, even if you can use drunk as an excuse. When I buy spirits, I most certainly don't expect people to lift them when I'm not looking. Buy your own spirits if you need to drink. Great. Now I'm going to feel like I have to watch for people like you every time I go to a bar.

        I agree - good is a mixed bag. We all have soft spots for one thing or an another. I'm probably kinder and more helpful to animals than I'd ever bother to be to people, in general. I wouldn't ever go out of my way to harm someone needlessly, but then, really don't care a rat about the average joe's problems, either.
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          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          Your name is Murphy? You wouldn't have anything to do with that dreaded law, would you?

          Makes sense . . . you sure you're on the right forum?
          Nah!

          Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

          A lot of crap happens due to good intentions. There's a reason for that expression, you know which one. Doing something out of the goodness of your heart with the most good of intentions often leads to bad bad things.
          The Road to Hell is Paved With Good Intentions!

          Plenty of Corporations using that one these days!

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    Yes, I am a good person because I am very humble to those people who do not have enough money to eat and manytimes helped some people by giving them food. When I compared myself to them I felt very happy about see that they are happy in what they have, but I'm not even if I have many things.
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      Originally Posted by CaraMurphy View Post

      Yes, I am a good person because I am very humble to those people who do not have enough money to eat and manytimes helped some people by giving them food. When I compared myself to them I felt very happy about see that they are happy in what they have, but I'm not even if I have many things.
      You must be a good person, you have the same surname as me!

      To be sure!

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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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    Originally Posted by dog8food View Post

    What qualifies you as such?

    By what standard?


    I think that if people (for the most part) think good, say good, and do good, then they're a "good person."
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    I always try to help the poor but because of financial insolvency I can't do this.
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    A lot of crap happens due to good intentions. There's a reason for that expression, you know which one. Doing something out of the goodness of your heart with the most good of intentions often leads to bad bad things.
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      Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

      A lot of crap happens due to good intentions. There's a reason for that expression, you know which one. Doing something out of the goodness of your heart with the most good of intentions often leads to bad bad things.
      ... and what I find is that if you have to tell people you are a good person, you probably aren't such a good person and if you brag about being good, your motives for doing a good deed weren't pure. They were self promotional.

      People who are good don't need to advertise.
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    I can see other people's success an my success. So, am I a good person?
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    Always consider myself a good person. Also very low on detail, so I'll leave i there.
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    Do most people have to try to be good, or does it come naturally?
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

      Do most people have to try to be good, or does it come naturally?
      I don't think people try. They are what they are. They can fake being a good person, I suppose. But why would someone try to be good, unless they already were?

      Still, no idea what people mean, when they say "Good person". I assume it means that this person does what you want.
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        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        Still, no idea what people mean, when they say "Good person". I assume it means that this person does what you want.
        I doubt that the OP knows what he meant by good person either. Since he won't answer my question, his agenda for these types of threads is unknown.

        People are rarely all "good" or all "bad." I'm sure that if you delve into the histories of some serial killers, you may find instances where they were considered by others to be a good person and you might find instances where people think Mother Theresa was not a good person.

        Here are some pretty surprising things that people who have been thought to be "bad" have done.

        Fred Phelps

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        The Good:
        Before starting an organization that hates everyone else in the world, Fred Phelps was a successful lawyer in the 1960s. In fact, he was a civil rights activist who took on cases of racial discrimination. He fought the Jim Crow laws and often won, earning his black clients significant settlements for discrimination.

        Phelps filed lawsuits against the Topeka School District, the Topeka Police Department, and the Shawnee County Sheriff's Department to secure equal rights for black citizens. He even received awards from local branches of the NAACP and Blacks in Government.

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        People are a composite and very few can be considered all good or all evil. Plus, everyone's ideas of what actually is "good" and what is "bad" are very different.
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        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        But why would someone try to be good, unless they already were?
        I don't see anything wrong with a person trying to be good. Because it means that they want to change. And regardless of what they get out of the process, they have helped another person.
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          Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

          I don't see anything wrong with a person trying to be good. Because it means that they want to change. And regardless of what they get out of the process, they have helped another person.
          I think what Claude meant is that trying to be good is, in essence, already being "good," therefore there is no try. It's a Yoda thing. By trying, one is doing, and by doing, one already is.
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            Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

            I think what Claude meant is that trying to be good is, in essence, already being "good," therefore there is no try. It's a Yoda thing. By trying, one is doing, and by doing, one already is.
            Oh right. Interesting. Thanks. : )
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            • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
              Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

              Oh right. Interesting. Thanks. : )

              No problem, Jonathan. I am the forum's highest authority on Whitacre translations.
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          • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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            Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

            I think what Claude meant is that trying to be good is, in essence, already being "good," therefore there is no try. It's a Yoda thing. By trying, one is doing, and by doing, one already is.
            I'm not sure he's saying that at all. I think he's saying more that a genuinely "good" person requires no effort to be good and there is no ulterior motive for being good. They just instinctively do what is considered the "right" thing without having to try to be good.
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            • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
              Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

              I'm not sure he's saying that at all. I think he's saying more that a genuinely "good" person requires no effort to be good and there is no ulterior motive for being good. They just instinctively do what is considered the "right" thing without having to try to be good.
              Hence there is no try. Splitting hairs really based on the definition of "try."

              I do disagree with the concept that being good requires no effort. Merely contemplating whether an action is good, bad, or neutral requires effort. We aren't automatons. If this is what Claude is saying, then I certainly disagree with him.
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              • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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                Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                Hence there is no try. Splitting hairs really based on the definition of "try."

                I do disagree with the concept that being good requires no effort. Merely contemplating whether an action is good, bad, or neutral requires effort. We aren't automatons. If this is what Claude is saying, then I certainly disagree with him.
                The question I have is whether or not you are really a good person if you have to weigh the options .... uh, let's see ... I can do this or do this. I probably should do this but doing that is more fun. I could do this, but I'll make more money doing that. Etc.
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              • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
                Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                Hence there is no try. Splitting hairs really based on the definition of "try."

                I do disagree with the concept that being good requires no effort. Merely contemplating whether an action is good, bad, or neutral requires effort. We aren't automatons. If this is what Claude is saying, then I certainly disagree with him.
                I don't consider that as "trying". When I hear, "trying to be good", I think of people making an effort to be better than they really are. In my experience, they eventually revert to their nature.

                I don't think of decision making as an effort. But it's just semantics. Decision making certainly requires more effort than doing nothing.

                When Suzanne said, "no ulterior motive", that's the part that really resonated with me.
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                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                  I don't consider that as "trying". When I hear, "trying to be good", I think of people making an effort to be better than they really are. In my experience, they eventually revert to their nature.

                  I don't think of decision making as an effort. But it's just semantics. Decision making certainly requires more effort than doing nothing.

                  When Suzanne said, "no ulterior motive", that's the part that really resonated with me.
                  Well that's the thing - I always have a motive. Always. I never make a decision without
                  a purpose ... and in my eyes that purpose is the very definition of motive.
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                  • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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                    I don't consider that as "trying". When I hear, "trying to be good", I think of people making an effort to be better than they really are. In my experience, they eventually revert to their nature.

                    I don't think of decision making as an effort. But it's just semantics. Decision making certainly requires more effort than doing nothing.

                    When Suzanne said, "no ulterior motive", that's the part that really resonated with me.
                    Originally Posted by kenmichaels View Post

                    Well that's the thing - I always have a motive. Always. I never make a decision without a purpose ... and in my eyes that purpose is the very definition of motive.
                    By "being good without an ulterior motive" I mean for example, heros who just jump into a dangerous situation with no thought or regard for their own safety to save someone else. In other words, a hero. They don't do it for the publicity or financial gain or any other reason other than to save someone. There are lesser degrees of this, but this is the prime example of what I meant.

                    By my definition, few people are mostly always instinctively good. Most people have to think it through and weigh options. I certainly don't claim to be instinctively good.

                    My mother was close to it, but not completely there. She was capable of some hateful things, but in living her life, she almost always chose the "good" route.

                    Growing up, I often found that to be a bit nauseating. I wanted more freedom to experiment and explore and had to leave (6,000 miles away) to achieve that, and I took a walk on the wild side ... something that she never would have done and wasn't even a little curious about. Being "bad" simply didn't interest her.

                    As I've grown older, I'm a better person, but not perfect by any means, and few people are really.
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                    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
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                      As I've grown older, I'm a better person, but not perfect by any means, and few people are really.
                      The idea that the word Perfect means something, could be the subject of an entire thread.
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                      • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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                        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                        The idea that the word Perfect means something, could be the subject of an entire thread.
                        I agree, but I have the same problems with the concepts of good and bad. They are open to interpretation and have different meanings to people. I don't accept that there is a 'standard" as the OP has asked ... "by what standard?"

                        Some things are so evil that it is almost universally accepted that they are evil and same with good, but there's so many shades in between, based on people's culture, upbringing, religion, etc. that it's impossible to standardize good and bad.
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                    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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                      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

                      By "being good without an ulterior motive" I mean for example, heros who just jump into a dangerous situation with no thought or regard for their own safety to save someone else. In other words, a hero. They don't do it for the publicity or financial gain or any other reason other than to save someone. There are lesser degrees of this, but this is the prime example of what I meant.
                      Interesting example, sbucciarel.

                      Something that I also think is worth mentioning as that little acts of kindness can go a long way.

                      For instance about 10 years ago when I was becoming ill (with Schizophrenia) I reached out on a forum because I was scared and didn't know what to do.

                      One person amongst the forum named Graham gave me his email address and said that if I ever wanted to chat that I could email him anytime. That whole encounter probably took about 10 seconds (and I didn't even email him) however it's something that I have always remembered.

                      We all have little opportunities in our day-to-day lives to show people kindness and you never know how much of a difference it could make. : )
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                • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                  I don't consider that as "trying". When I hear, "trying to be good", I think of people making an effort to be better than they really are. In my experience, they eventually revert to their nature.

                  I don't think of decision making as an effort. But it's just semantics. Decision making certainly requires more effort than doing nothing.
                  In two sentences you state that decision making isn't an effort and that it is an effort.

                  If we accept that what is "good" is based on action - a being in a neutral state is neutral - and "effort" or "trying" is, in essence, action - then we must weigh effort when analyzing "good."

                  If we accept that "bad," by definition, doesn't "try" to be good, we're left with the mere "effort" to be good as a proof of "goodness."

                  For example: A clerk gives someone extra change.

                  "Bad" takes the money and runs. We'll call this the "Claudian Response."

                  "Good" potentially has two options (potentially more, but...brevity):

                  1. Immediately give the money back. Or "Automatic Good." Good parenting, strong moral compass, whatever.

                  2. Weighing "right" versus "pain." If incorrect change is greater than $x and/or the moral value is greater than the pain of giving back then fork it over.

                  Is the "effort" of option 2 not a sign of goodness? The outcome of the effort is another issue entirely, but I would argue that the mere effort puts the person on the "good" spectrum. That the individual makes a consideration is a sign of good. In fact, there's more intellectual involvement than with an automatic response.

                  (One could argue that this is a sign of an absence of "bad," which prompts the additional question of, "Is the absence of bad good or just an absence of bad?")

                  (My argument is based on the concept that any level of "good" is "good." A little "good" - you say thank you when appropriate - and a lotta "good" - you save someone's life - are the same thing for the point of this discussion.)
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                  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
                    Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                    In two sentences you state that decision making isn't an effort and that it is an effort.

                    If we accept that what is "good" is based on action - a being in a neutral state is neutral - and "effort" or "trying" is, in essence, action - then we must weigh effort when analyzing "good."

                    If we accept that "bad," by definition, doesn't "try" to be good, we're left with the mere "effort" to be good as a proof of "goodness."

                    For example: A clerk gives someone extra change.

                    "Bad" takes the money and runs. We'll call this the "Claudian Response."

                    "Good" potentially has two options (potentially more, but...brevity):

                    1. Immediately give the money back. Or "Automatic Good." Good parenting, strong moral compass, whatever.

                    2. Weighing "right" versus "pain." If incorrect change is greater than and/or the moral value is greater than the pain of giving back then fork it over.

                    Is the "effort" of option 2 not a sign of goodness? The outcome of the effort is another issue entirely, but I would argue that the mere effort puts the person on the "good" spectrum. That the individual makes a consideration is a sign of good.

                    (One could argue that this is a sign of an absence of "bad," which prompts the additional question of, "Is the absence of bad good or just an absence of bad?)

                    (My argument is based on the concept that any level of "good" is "good." A little "good" - you say thank you when appropriate - and a lotta "good" - you save someone's life - are the same thing for the point of this discussion.)
                    And the core of your post, shows that there are infinite shades of "Good" and "Bad". It isn't a black and white issue for most.

                    In your "incorrect change" example, my guess is that 5% of the people would insist on giving back the change, no matter the amount. 5% would keep it, no matter the amount. And 90% would make a judgement call.

                    My wife would always give back the change, no matter the amount. So would I...but for entirely different reasons.


                    You said, "Is the absence of bad good or just an absence of bad?". I don't know. But I do know that good and bad are interpretations. They aren't terms I would ever use to describe anything I do.



                    Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                    In two sentences you state that decision making isn't an effort and that it is an effort.
                    It's because I think that the words effort and try, imply more energy than you mean. Again, it's just word usage.
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                    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
                      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                      And the core of your post, shows that there are infinite shades of "Good" and "Bad". It isn't a black and white issue for most.

                      In your "incorrect change" example, my guess is that 5% of the people would insist on giving back the change, no mater the amount. 5% would keep it, no matter the amount. And 90% would make a judgement call.

                      My wife would always give back the change, no matter the amount. So would I...but for entirely different reasons.


                      You said, "Is the absence of bad good or just an absence of bad?". I don't know. But I do know that good and bad are interpretations. They aren't terms I would ever use to describe anything I do.

                      Fair enough. I wasn't trying to say that "good" is a fixed position. The sole purpose of the last parenthetical was to clear that up. I was simply trying to set a framework for analysis of the concept of "effort."

                      Certainly, the concepts of good and bad exist on a spectrum and shades and interpretations exist. No doubt. My point is - and, oddly enough, if also what I thought you were trying to say - is that effort, or action, to be good is, itself, a sign of goodness.
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                      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
                        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                        Fair enough. I wasn't trying to say that "good" is a fixed position. The sole purpose of the last parenthetical was to clear that up. I was simply trying to set a framework for analysis of the concept of "effort."
                        You did, and I agreed with you.


                        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

                        Certainly, the concepts of good and bad exist on a spectrum and shades and interpretations exist. No doubt. My point is - and, oddly enough, if also what I thought you were trying to say - is that effort, or action, to be good is, itself, a sign of goodness.
                        Yes, I was trying to say that. So....I must be good, because I tried.
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                        • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
                          A lot of superfluous chit chat here. It all comes down to one word. You "Compromise" as much or as little as you need to to get what you want, regardless of what you really think about it inside, for real.

                          Don't want a life in jail or to be killed by some criminal adversary , you compromise, do things legitimately,

                          Want a nice house, some company, a good wife, you compromise.

                          Example: An attractive woman of little means marries an older rich guy for the money and the lifestyle. She may not love him and he is just ok enough that she could stand having sex with him a few times a week. But, she wants the lifestyle, the vacations, the security etc. She compromises herself to get it. She enjoys what she has though and plays the part, dedicates 20 years of her life to it.

                          What the compromising gives you is the reward.
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                          • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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                            Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                            A lot of superfluous chit chat here. It all comes down to one word. You "Compromise" as much or as little as you need to to get what you want, regardless of what you really think about it inside, for real.

                            Don't want a life in jail or to be killed by some criminal adversary , you compromise, do things legitimately,

                            Want a nice house, some company, a good wife, you compromise.

                            Example: An attractive woman of little means marries an older rich guy for the money and the lifestyle. She may not love him and he is just ok enough that she could stand having sex with him a few times a week. But, she wants the lifestyle, the vacations, the security etc. She compromises herself to get it. She enjoys what she has though and plays the part, dedicates 20 years of her life to it.

                            What the compromising gives you is the reward.
                            I don't agree that people are good just because they want certain things that being perceived as good will bring them. Some people are good by their definition because their gut tells them it's the right thing to do and they want to do the right thing.

                            My mother was like that. She had nothing to gain by being as good as she was. She didn't marry for a lifestyle, vacations, or security. She married an asshole who didn't appear to be an asshole when she married him, and yet she stayed until she died because she felt that she made a commitment, had children to raise, and disrupting the household would be selfish and benefit no one but herself. She treated him far better than he deserved for no real reward.

                            She was a completely unselfish person and always put the needs of the family above herself. We would have preferred that she spent some time and money on herself, as it made us feel bad that she did everything for us and nothing for herself.

                            She wasn't a religious person either. She didn't feel there was going to be a reward "in heaven." It was just her concept of good and bad and no one could sway her.
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                            • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
                              Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

                              I don't agree that people are good just because they want certain things that being perceived as good will bring them. Some people are good by their definition because their gut tells them it's the right thing to do and they want to do the right thing.

                              My mother was like that. She had nothing to gain by being as good as she was. She didn't marry for a lifestyle, vacations, or security. She married an asshole who didn't appear to be an asshole when she married him, and yet she stayed until she died because she felt that she made a commitment, had children to raise, and disrupting the household would be selfish and benefit no one but herself. She treated him far better than he deserved for no real reward.

                              She was a completely unselfish person and always put the needs of the family above herself. We would have preferred that she spent some time and money on herself, as it made us feel bad that she did everything for us and nothing for herself.

                              She wasn't a religious person either. She didn't feel there was going to be a reward "in heaven." It was just her concept of good and bad and no one could sway her.
                              Your talking about degree's of compromise. If you were brought up in fantastic environment where everyone was nice to each other or an enviroment where strong religious or moral values were instilled into you and could never escape it then the niggling doubts that it is all crap that you and that you would rather go out and maim and kill would be buried (but not completely). I would call that enforced Comproimse, perhaps from birth, strong indoctrination, manipulation.

                              People in that situation are compromising to stay there, fit in. it's all they know Still compromise.

                              If you have a weak and feeble mind and intellect then your just cruising on the whims of others anyway.

                              We are born and soon become aware that we cant fly like the birds. So we take up Hang Gliding. Compromise.
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                              • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
                                Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                                We are born and soon become aware that we cant fly like the birds. So we take up Hang Gliding. Compromise.
                                And I wanted to engage with an intellectual equal, that would improve my mental game, and I ended up with Dan Riffle...Compromise.




                                Mark; I'm going to give your last two posts some thought. i need to wrap my mind around what you are saying.
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                                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                                  And I wanted to engage with an intellectual equal, that would improve my mental game, and I ended up with Dan Riffle...Compromise.
                                  I'm sure Kay feels that way a lot when she comes down here for a logical and reasonable discussion.
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                                    Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

                                    I'm sure Kay feels that way a lot when she comes down here for a logical and reasonable discussion.
                                    Probably. Kay is one of the brightest, and most rational people here.
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                                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                                  And I wanted to engage with an intellectual equal, that would improve my mental game,
                                  Barney Rubble was on vacation.

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                              • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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                                Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                                Your talking about degree's of compromise.
                                No, you're talking about degrees of compromise. I still don't agree.
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                          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                            Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                            A lot of superfluous chit chat here. It all comes down to one word. You "Compromise" as much or as little as you need to to get what you want, regardless of what you really think about it inside, for real.

                            Don't want a life in jail or to be killed by some criminal adversary , you compromise, do things legitimately,

                            Want a nice house, some company, a good wife, you compromise.

                            Example: An attractive woman of little means marries an older rich guy for the money and the lifestyle. She may not love him and he is just ok enough that she could stand having sex with him a few times a week. But, she wants the lifestyle, the vacations, the security etc. She compromises herself to get it. She enjoys what she has though and plays the part, dedicates 20 years of her life to it.

                            What the compromising gives you is the reward.
                            Yikes!

                            If I did that, I wouldn't feel good at all. Guilt would tear me up a little bit more each day.

                            You think that's good?


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                      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                      It's because I think that the words effort and try, imply more energy than you mean. Again, it's just word usage.

                      I will cut you.
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                • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                  When Suzanne said, "no ulterior motive", that's the part that really resonated with me.
                  Even Jesus had a reason for many of his acts of kindness: (To please The Father and to show people how to live.)

                  That said, I do agree that many times kindness that has no other reason is often the best.
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                    Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

                    Even Jesus had a reason for many of his acts of kindness: (To please The Father and to show people how to live.)
                    No religion in this forum please. If I can't make a post that had one sentence that could be construed as political, then I am going to have to insist that everyone abide by the same rules. Sorry. Blame the mods!

                    Since some loser here reported my post and requested that it be removed, I fear that I am now forced to do likewise. Everyone has been warned.

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                    P.S. My comment was NOT political. It was scientific fact.
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                      Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

                      No religion in this forum please. If I can't make a post that had one sentence that could be construed as political, then I am going to have to insist that everyone abide by the same rules. Sorry. Blame the mods!

                      Since some loser here reported my post and requested that it be removed, I fear that I am now forced to do likewise. Everyone has been warned.

                      Cheers. - Frank

                      P.S. My comment was NOT political. It was scientific fact.
                      Ah! We found the "what else matters" over and beyond your dog loving you.


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                        Ah! We found the "what else matters" over and beyond your dog loving you. Terra
                        I'm almost 70. After my dog, nothing really matters.

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            • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
              Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

              I'm not sure he's saying that at all. I think he's saying more that a genuinely "good" person requires no effort to be good and there is no ulterior motive for being good. They just instinctively do what is considered the "right" thing without having to try to be good.

              Suzanne; Actually Riffle was right. He understood exactly what I meant. But......

              Your idea is more descriptive of what I would assume a good person is. So, in reality, you are giving me credit for an insight that I didn't have, but you did.

              I have a little experience with guys trying to do the right thing. It shows that they are aware of their faults, and don't like them. They want to change. But I think we all just end up acting the way we really are.


              You said, "a genuinely "good" person requires no effort to be good and there is no ulterior motive for being good"

              I can't think of a better description.
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              • Profile picture of the author kenmichaels
                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                Suzanne; Actually Riffle was right. He understood exactly what I meant. But......

                Your idea is more descriptive of what I would assume a good person is. So, in reality, you are giving me credit for an insight that I didn't have, but you did.

                I have a little experience with guys trying to do the right thing. It shows that they are aware of their faults, and don't like them. They want to change. But I think we all just end up acting the way we really are.


                You said, "a genuinely "good" person requires no effort to be good and there is no ulterior motive for being good"

                I can't think of a better description
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                Well if that is the benchmark - Someone like myself cannot be considered good.

                It takes a lot of effort on my part to do what others consider the right thing.
                Often I do the wrong thing for the right reason and the right thing for the wrong reason.

                Sounds like I'm joking or trying to be insightful - I'm not.

                I learned a long time ago I am different then most. If I was not raised as well
                as I was - i could have very easily went the "wrong" route in life ...
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                • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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                  I agree with Ken.

                  Sometimes doing the "right"/good thing isn't easy. And it does take a certain amount of effort. (That's if people are being honest with themselves.)
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                • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
                  Originally Posted by kenmichaels View Post

                  Well if that is the benchmark - Someone like myself cannot be considered good.

                  It takes a lot of effort on my part to do what others consider the right thing.
                  Often I do the wrong thing for the right reason and the right thing for the wrong reason.
                  .
                  You and Riffle are bringing up a good point. You want to do the right thing, and it takes some effort. So, you are at least good in some ways, or you wouldn't try. In fact, the idea that you're putting forth an effort, makes this more admirable, in my opinion.

                  But some people (less than we would like to imagine, I think) have strong principles, that make these decisions effortless. The principles are strong enough, you don't even consider a different action.

                  And...just because you are highly principled, doesn't mean you are a good person. Trust me on that.

                  Added later; (at the risk of sounding like a self centered prick)
                  I'm a highly principled person. But I'm not really a good person. Sometimes my principles are in my favor, and sometimes not. Sometimes this means I'm seen as kind and generous. Sometimes it means I'm seen as unforgiving and strict. My principles take the place of morals, in my case.

                  Yesterday, I had a local competitor send a customer my way. She bought a vacuum cleaner, and I made $300 profit. I called the competitor, and told him I was sending him a check for $150. He said, "You don't need to do that". But he was wrong. I do need to do that. To me, it was the right thing to do. He thinks I'm being generous, but he's wrong. I'm not a generous person. I never loan money. And I never give money to beggars. But someone selling something for a few bucks? Sure, even if I don't want it. Why? Because it's a fair trade, that I can justify.

                  And I needed to share the profit on that sale.

                  So, Ken.....you're weird, and I'm weird. But I wonder if we are weird in the same way.
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  • Profile picture of the author Barry Unruh
    After about 5 or 6 beers I hold up my hand and say "I'm good"..does that count?
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    I'd never compromise my principles by marrying for money, or cheating with someone, or stealing....

    There have been a few times where I did not return excess change because I was tired, or
    too far away by the time I realized it. We're talking small coin, not dollars.

    People may construe my actions as not good, but I think I always intend well.
    There are times I can be tired, busy, and cranky and come across as a bit rude
    because I am just reacting or speaking without thinking. I've also stopped fights
    or other crimes because I just reacted (and realized the possible danger to myself later).

    I have heard that all but a very, very small percentage of humans know what they are doing
    and why they are doing it. Even amongst those who are deemed mentally ill. Cali16 could probably
    talk about times she's had to call BS and stop the attempted manipulations when she was a therapist.


    Dan

    PS - Some new to me experiences I think are bad and grow to worse the more I think about them.
    Like the first time someone I know pulled somebody off the wagon because he wanted somebody to get
    high and/or drunk with. I might have had a hotter reaction sooner if I had been raised with a stronger moral
    or religious background.
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    Me, by my own standards, not so good, but I try to be a better person than I was yesterday. Its a thing with me to try and be a better person than I was yesterday, yesteryear, etc. Most of the time I fail and sometimes I succeed because I am pretty much stuck in my ways and my beliefs. Not an old dog that can't taught new tricks, but more of an old dog that is slow to adopt different opinions, beliefs, etc.

    In the end I am a lucky man though because I married who I consider to be the kindest person I know and it is her kind ways that makes me want to be a better person than I was yesterday.
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    • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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      In the end, does it matter whether or not you consider yourself a good person, or is it more important what those around you think?

      Since I have no one around me, ever, that may be a rhetorical question. :-(

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      • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
        Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

        In the end, does it matter whether or not you consider yourself a good person, or is it more important what those around you think?

        Since I have no one around me, ever, that may be a rhetorical question. :-(

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          Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

          Your dog likes you.
          Honestly, she just hangs around for the leftovers.

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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by Jeffery View Post

      Me, by my own standards, not so good, but I try to be a better person than I was yesterday. Its a thing with me to try and be a better person than I was yesterday, yesteryear, etc. Most of the time I fail and sometimes I succeed because I am pretty much stuck in my ways and my beliefs. Not an old dog that can't taught new tricks, but more of an old dog that is slow to adopt different opinions, beliefs, etc.

      In the end I am a lucky man though because I married who I consider to be the kindest person I know and it is her kind ways that makes me want to be a better person than I was yesterday.
      Well said, and refreshingly honest.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by Jeffery View Post

      In the end I am a lucky man though because I married who I consider to be the kindest person I know and it is her kind ways that makes me want to be a better person than I was yesterday.
      You are indeed a lucky man. And so am I. My wife makes me want to be a better person. Nobody else has that effect on me.
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        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        My wife makes me want to be a better person. Nobody else has that effect on me.
        Apparently, she's not actually having that much of an effect on you. Tell her to crank-it-up!

        Cheers. - Frank
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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          My wife makes me want to be a better person. .
          Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

          Apparently, she's not actually having that much of an effect on you. Tell her to crank-it-up!

          Cheers. - Frank
          I love you, Frank.
          You make me feel like I already am a better person.
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            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            I love you, Frank.
            You make me feel like I already am a better person.
            Yes, I induce a delusional response in many people. Obviously you are not an exception.

            Cheers. - Frank
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          • Profile picture of the author discrat
            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            I love you, Frank.
            You make me feel like I already am a better person.
            You really need to raise the
            bar , Claude.
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            • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
              Originally Posted by discrat View Post

              You really need to raise the
              bar , Claude.

              My wife keeps saying almost the same thing.
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                children and animals are drawn to me so I must be ok
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                Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                My wife keeps saying almost the same thing.
                You could just buy lower stools.
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  • Profile picture of the author bojan92
    yes i think that i am a good person, because i try not to hurt anyone, and every time when i can help someone i am there.
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    I love with my family
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  • Profile picture of the author roman1999
    My mom says I'm pretty ok occasionally and sometimes, so I guess that makes me good.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      I strive for complete excellence in all facets of my life.

      Im better than just good.

      Actually, that is an insult to me

      Try Superb

      And i will not respond to anything less than
      that lol
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    • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
      Originally Posted by roman1999 View Post

      My mom says I'm pretty ok occasionally and sometimes, so I guess that makes me good.
      Does she call you son because you're so bright?






      (Old, old joke)
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    Here is the honest truth. I 'm good when all the a**holes leave me alone. So I'm good.
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