How will you handle hatred from your Girlfriend's Dad

I just tell them, "At least I'm not Claude". It works every time.

Avoidin' the cesspool of misogyny squirtin' from bile duct to halo right now gonna be tricky.

But we got the vegetables to save the frickin' planet.

Even dachshunds, who are like human sausages.

Knock on his front door at 3AM and challenge him to a feats of strength contest in the front yard. Talk trash and tell him you're undefeated with all the other girlfriends dads.

If he answers the front door with a deer rifle, run like hell.

Kill him with kindness.

Drop a joke... When he asks what you do, just point at his daughter, all dads will love that! (This advice may not be the best to follow but do it for the lols)

Bite his ear off to assert dominance

Your girlfriend love you so that is all that matters. He need to make friends with you, I would not do anything special and just be myself.

In time he will realize that he is going to lose his daughters respect so he will give up the hatred.

Offer to vacuum clean the house for him.



(Hat tip to Joe Mobley).

Don't let it rattle your cage and change who you are.
If you're a good guy, keep doing that and just stay on your course in life.

My ex-brother in law was rattled by such a comment from my Dad and
so he went from making good money in blue collar work and tried insurance
sales. He was not good at insurance sales, or any other sales field that
he tried. Failing in sales put more stress on the marriage.

After the divorce, he went back to driving truck and was better off for it.

How to defuse the hatred from the pops-in-law?

1) Get an actual job rather than scrabble around the internet trying to be the pimp-of-crumbs.

2) Learn to read, write, and presumably speak, proper language. Adults (like the pops-in-law) tend to expect that.

3) Be a genuine person, who is genuinely useful, intelligent*, and respectful

* by be intelligent, I don't mean you have to be Einstein. I mean don't be a dumbass. Best way to be not a dumbass is to recognize that you're probably a dumbass. Especially compared to him. So try not to make it obvious. Ask more questions than spout off with things you know. When giving an answer, ask what he thinks about it. Don't back down, but work together to find common ground and answers that work for you both. In general, act like a responsible adult, and not a dumbass know it all punk kid.

So far you have the dumbass know it all punk kid act down solid. Let's see if you can pull off "mature adult" when it's called for.

If he's in Nigeria, he probably literally means his tribe.

Duala, Fang, Hutu, Tutsi, Mwila, etc.

Though I dunno the tribes actually in Nigera, I only know that the 3 main languages are Hausa, Igbo and Yoruba. Not sure if those are also actual tribes, or if the languages cover multiple tribes.

Slightly off topic but it's not a good idea to announce on your site that you've received an award from another forum when within a day of joining that forum you've been banned.

Also there are so many ads, demands to sign up to your newsletter and other clutter on your site it's difficult to know what you are promoting. Do you actually know what the core of your business is? Is it selling memberships to your site? Creating a jobs directory? Making a few bucks here and there from Affiliate sales?

Also your FB page link is not valid, your latest post is a month ago and I'm beginning to think that perhaps your girlfriend's father (irrespective of tribal prejudices) may be justified in not seeing you as a good catch for his daughter.

This is nothing personal but your site/business model is a mess. If her father has seen it he probably thinks the same.

As to your main question; if her father is opposed to you because you're from a different tribe then I can't see any way to get around that. You could be a combination of Superman and every other 'superhero' but if that's how he feels then basically you're toast.

Can't you just elope?

As you are in Nigeria, why not get in contact with one of the many princes, bank presidents and former generals to transfer $4,751,689 they are hiding to you?

Or better still, have them transfer it to your girl's dad.

You are asking for advice on how to win over your girlfriend's dad who does not approve of you on an INTERNET MARKETING FORUM!?!?!

I think she could do better.

Oh my God. The most difficult question i had ever replied. Well, for this prupose, first i asked from my girlfriend about her father's mood, his likes and dislikes. Then i may come infron of him and start talking like this: -
Me: Good Evening Sir,
Father: Hmm.
Me: So how are you sir.
Father: Fine enough, come to the topic man.
Me: Sir, I actually wanna say that there is too much violance in our society how shold we contain this.
Father: I am not responsible for that, Are You ??
Me: Oh no, not really sir, i just concern about it. Today a person even do not hear what other man says to him.
Father: ok, so what you wanna ask?
Me: Sir actually i like your daughter so much, I am greatful to you if you agreed for our marrige, i will always keeps her happy.

NOW STOP : Here will be two different possibilities, may be Father said ok, i agree, or may be said that you may go from here and never look me again around my daughter (I think second option is more possible then first one)

Just try this ....

Why was he banned? I mean sure he was a wanna punk loser.... but he didn't really cross any lines that I could see.

Even wanna punk losers have the capacity to learn and grow. Well sometimes at least.

So I'm really curious why he was banned?

No, that's the first rule of Stalinist Russia.

I was hoping this place was slightly less oppressive than the KGB.

False hope?