I agree with Match.com

She SHOULD have tried to meet half way, etc... This is dangerous for ANYONE, but ESPECIALLY for a woman and ESPECIALLY with a stranger. He knows there is a BIG chance she is ALONE and has some stuff that might be worth stealing.

Steve

[Her attorney, Marc Saggese, told the station that, "The basis of the lawsuit is the advertising that is utilized by Match.com, lulling women and men into a false sense of security."]

What false sense of security? "I read it on the internet, so it must be true?" She had the sense to break up with him eight days later, so she must have had some indication he wasn't all that right. There was no way anyone could have predicted that he would attack her months later.

["They don't say one in five are part of an attempted murder or one in five are killed," she told Fox 5 Vegas. "They don't tell you people are missing." ]

And craigslist doesn't post the stats on ads gone wrong either!

I also agree with Match.com, this is absurd.

~ Theresa

LOL - can't tell you how many responses I started only to erase.

How can anybody make it to 50 years of age, and NOT know meeting strangers can be dangerous.

Even my 3 year old knows that.

Ken,

Maybe they weren't TAUGHT!

Just kidding. At least I never though you had to be TAUGHT such things. I learned it just by going to school, though they NEVER taught it in school, if you know what I mean.

Maybe she was a feminist that believed their press. Ironically, feminism moved them AWAY from a more protected area.

BTW if I didn't make it clear, I think Match.com is right ALSO! Match.com CAN'T validate everyone, and clients should be PREPARED for such things. Male or female, this CAN happen!

Steve

The need for love almost always overrides common sense - :rolleyes:

Kay,

I'm glad YOU had the sense to quit. It sounds like the sales people, like you, were probably generally PRETTIER than the female clients.

As for the men being a bit off, that is to be kind of expected. The ones that LOOKED/WERE the best, or were very confident, probably wouldn't have needed to go to such a place, or would not have thought about going there.

Steve

I used it a little many years ago and the thing I remember most is all are the warnings NOT to tell anybody your address - or even your last name.

You meet in PUBLIC and you don't even let him see your car. Even show up early and scope the guy out and if he is anything besides what he said, you are to leave without meeting (a liar). (if you do go as far as to introduce yourself to see he is a liar, excuse yourself to the lady's room and then split - quick). (the operative word here IS 'liar' - not that he is not 'cute' enough or tall enough - the point is you can't trust liars).

If you do meet him, you still leave alone and don't let him see your car if possible. - I only had a few dates because I found (duh) some men will say whatever you want to hear ('yes i am only interested in serious') and there were just a few first dates that went nowhere -

(actually many treat online dating like it's an electronic pimp - and like real life, a lot of guys only want sex, no matter how fancy they might get to achieve that end. Heck they might even invest TWO dates! wow).

The problem is when you do meet and do feel an affinity - someone is easy to talk to, and seems to be 'authentic' - then you let your guard down - and you let them know facts about you like your address or where you work - or even where you grew up - (even a phone number can lead to other info) -- often enough to trace your exact whereabouts if they are weirdos.

I did invite ones that made it to date #2 over twice and lived unscathed to tell about it - however, I was really in horror (in my head) both times when I realized how 'easy' I could have been 'set up' - Obviously for a change my judgement about people was good and they were both 'gentlemen' who so far have not come back to 'byte me' (close to 10 years now).

When you think about it though it is a lot 'safer' than just meeting someone at a bar or wherever - I really liked the fact that you got a chance to get to know them online BEFORE you met - this really 'breaks the ice' and you feel you are meeting someone you already know and like -

I have heard more good stories than horror stories. Yet there was just something about the whole process that seemed humiliating (and dangerous) so back to trolling hardware stores and the produce section. hehehe just kidding -

Just another case of people trying to take advantage of an unfortunate circumstance.

I agree Dennis.
In my opinion the only entity she has any possible legal right to pursue would be the killer's estate,if there is any.

The article does make me wonder if there can be better background checks for dating sites. "They don't say one in five are part of an attempted murder or one in five are killed," she told Fox 5 Vegas. "They don't tell you people are missing." One in five!? Wow, could this be true?

No, it can't be true. that would be 20% and that amount would definitely not go unnoticed.

well steve have you ever used 1-800-us-search? you can get all kinds of information about people... easy: you can see death and criminal records - however without key pieces of information about their distant past or birth it is pretty difficult if not impossible to locate them.

with recent information it may be a total piece of cake.

lol. i (twice) tried to find an old boyfriend i lost contact with in the mid-1960s - it was the mid 1970's the first time and then in the mid 1990s i tried again.

i had reams of paper - databases of addresses & phones of people with similar names all over the world. hundreds - for just a few bucks. ages also with many of the lists.

...but when i actually decided to pay a detective i found out real quick there was not much chance of ever finding him - and his name was not that common - but just a lot of variations for example because alot of immigrants shortened their long names when they came to US.

what a daze we were in. (there is truth to 'if you can remember the sixties you weren't there' - i was there - at least i thinkso. and this was somebody i was pretty close with for a year or so, knew his friends, and dated a few times - but who asked anybody 'what school did you go to' or where were you born?

we knew what was important. i knew his sign (Sagitarius) and that he was a very bright doll and he liked me. I have no idea where he came from - i just knew him in Berkeley CA -

terrible that i have no idea where he went when we lost touch or even if he is still alive or not. I guess I never will - oh well God bless you James A wherever you are. Still sorry I lost you!

This is what's wrong with the human race. If something goes wrong we feel the need to point the finger. It is horrible what happened to her, but it is common sense to meet in a public place for the first couple of dates.

You can have the most secure dating website ever, running all the possible checks. It just takes one individual with no criminal record what so ever to do something like this and
have everything come tumbling down. Similar to the gun laws in America after these shootings. If someone really wants to go on a rampage or something, they will get there hands on a gun one way or another.

Most dating sites say not to reveal your address, meet in a public place, be very careful with personal information etc, etc.

Personally i see this as her taking advantage of what's happened. She has all right to be angry, but not at Match.com

/rant over