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Our Son, 3, Is A "Free Spirit"?

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Today we took our son, 3, to a festival. It was for folks of all ages, but there were various set-ups to entertain small children, and he had lots of fun with them. Too much fun.

Initially he'd play games the way they're meant to be played, but then he'd get experimental, at which point we would take him somewhere else, before it got too disruptive for the other kids playing the game.

After a while we decided to take him to some performances by adults, figuring that he couldn't make trouble there. Wrong.

Some men in elaborate feathered costumes were doing a raindance. I explained to my son that the dance is to help bring rain. He replied, "It's a really hot sunny day. They need help!" So he rain into the midst of the performance to join them. The crowd laughed but the performers definitely weren't too pleased. A stage hand managed to shoo him away. After the performance, an elderly Native man looked at us seriously and said, "Your son disrupted a sacred rain dance!" Before we could feel too devastated, he guffawed and added, "He is a free spirit!"
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    Sounds like a free spirit. Many children are born with a free spirit but some act it out more than others. However, once they are told several hundred thousand times the word "no", or, "don't do that" by their parents, they tend to become more reserved later in life. By the time they grow up they will have lost most of their free spirit and sadly become a totally different person than they were intended to be.

    I have a 6 year old daughter and I try to encourage her being different and even doing things backwards from everyone else. She likes to sit backwards on her bicycle and tries to ride it that way, simply because she knows that everyone else is doing it "the boring way". People, places and things will tell her "no, that's not how it should be done" in life, so I try not to be a part of that.

    Since this is a totally new era from the one we grew up in, one in which not being afraid to get attention and doing things differently will be a bonus, if your child has managed to retain his free "experimental" spirit as an adult (with your help and encouragement) I can not see how this then could possibly hurt his endeavors. It would probably be very helpful.
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      Originally Posted by stoltingmediagroup View Post

      Sounds like a free spirit. Many children are born with a free spirit but some act it out more than others. However, once they are told several hundred thousand times the word "no", or, "don't do that" by their parents, they tend to become more reserved later in life. By the time they grow up they will have lost most of their free spirit and sadly become a totally different person than they were intended to be.

      I have a 6 year old daughter and I try to encourage her being different and even doing things backwards from everyone else. She likes to sit backwards on her bicycle and tries to ride it that way, simply because she knows that everyone else is doing it "the boring way". People, places and things will tell her "no, that's not how it should be done" in life, so I try not to be a part of that.

      Since this is a totally new era from the one we grew up in, one in which not being afraid to get attention and doing things differently will be a bonus, if your child has managed to retain his free "experimental" spirit as an adult (with your help and encouragement) I can not see how this then could possibly hurt his endeavors. It would probably be very helpful.
      I have thought about that. I do let him experiment and have fun, basically drawing the line when it comes to his safety or if interferes with what other kids are doing (which often overlaps with safety anyway), but do not put much weight on social conventions and expectations which shift a lot in society anyway, and certainly don't put much weight on jack leg psychology statements from strangers or authority (also basically strangers for the most part).
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    Difficult position for da parents.

    Yes but no - (be free, be creative, but not too much).

    Something along the lines of 'freedom is not license'

    Really although being terminally 'out of the box' and 'marching to a different drummer' is highly recommended to cultivate 'brightness'- it is a tough life to always be different. ... lots of reasons.

    .... hmmm it has been trying to rain here for two days - nothing happening so far except warm and gray...

    Please send the Little Emperor back to try again. We have water levels that have not been this depleted for 5 years...
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